Thanks JMAN!
I'm close and the server is up but don't have the server, user or profile cfgs set up quite right. Part of my problem is the parameter line in Firedaemon, I'm trying to avoid using the ARMA2.exe shortcut on the desktop. It didn't launch correctly from the desktop icon but did with the way I set it up following the instructions in this thread. But I could get it to launch via Firedaeomon when the ARMA2.exe is located in C:\Program Files\Bohemia Interactive\ARMA2\My Server
Biggest request I have is to see which .cfgs and .log files are required and in which folders and what the paths are to those folders.
Here's what my friend said is going on with my server;
@Jammy, my friend looked for our server by going to the Multiplayer section and clicking on "Remote" from there you can enter the IP of your server to search for it.
Side note, we also had to update our server to the latest directx version.