fixed it, as i thought it would be due to my 2 pcs sharing a connection. So what i did is disable the connect for the other pc so it couldn't share the connection of this pc. Then i hosted a game in gamespy to test it with just a guy i asked to help me quickly. And it worked and ran fine like it did in the old days. =] I would still like EchoFive to contact me because he will probably know how to open another port so my other pc can still share a cable connection while i still am able to host ofp games on this port it needs to work.
thx for the reply btw echo, and also the guy who had the same problem because this won't only help me but urself and many others who will get similar problems.