OK I think I narrowed it down to 2 mods causing my issue, the 2 mods are CBA_A3 and MCC 4.. now MCC4 was updated back in Jan 2019, and CBA was last updated in march..
Now this is only on my system my friend has the same mods and he is able to host no problems.. so there is something on my system conflicting with those 2 mods to make me not able to host.. I will look forward to hopefully somebody can tell me what else I can do to resolve or help troubleshoot this problem..
I just reinstalled drivers for my network card and where updated ones but that did not fix it.. I also want to say it is not heat related as my CPU and GPU work fine and do not get overheated..
Not sure what is going on but maybe the log file will reveal something, I had looked at the .rtp one but did not see anything more or less did not understand the data in there ;)