I am having the exact same issue as reported here: http://dev-heaven.net/issues/12204. I have posted on that forum, too. But, subsequent to my post there I have done a complete reinstall of OS (W7 Ultimate 64-bit) and both Arma 2 and OA. I have not installed any mods this time. Issue is still there. I have to leave the server and re-enter in order to be seen, to be able to enter vehicles and record kills/deaths. If I stay in the game, I cannot be seen by either other players or the AI, although other players can hear my weapons, see dirt splat etc. I also cannot enter vehicles at all. No kills are recored, although deaths are. This resets if I leave the server and rejoin and is fine until my first respawn.
Is this a portforwarding issue?